Think Twice Before Having Unprotected Sex: Face the Reality
Has sex become something you take too lightly?
You may have heard stories like these before:
- “I didn’t want my boyfriend to get mad, so I agreed to sex without a condom.”
- “I heard it feels better without protection, so we tried it.”
- “He said he’d pull out, so I thought it was fine.”
- “It was a ‘safe day,’ so I assumed there was no risk.”
Unfortunately, many people make these decisions without fully understanding the consequences. A friend of mine, just two months into her first full-time job, found out she was pregnant. She cried for days until her mother Severely told her, “If you’re going to cry that much, just get an abortion.(Naturally, abortion is not recommended in Japan, and it takes considerable resolve to say this.)” Only then did she grasp the gravity of the situation. Her younger sister also became pregnant at 20, rushing into marriage unprepared.
In today’s digital age, information is easily accessible. Yet, while people eagerly seek out knowledge about pleasure, they often avoid facing the painful realities of sex.
Don’t Forget the True Nature of Sex
Sex is not just about pleasure—it is fundamentally about reproduction. It also comes with health risks.
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) spread easily through unprotected sex, even through saliva and other bodily fluids.
(Note: While there is no need to be overly fearful, having the right knowledge and practicing safe sex is crucial.)
This is why sex should be shared with a trusted partner in a mutual, loving relationship—yet too many people overlook this fundamental aspect.
Is the ‘Safe Day’ Method Really Safe?
The idea that certain days in the menstrual cycle are completely safe is a dangerous myth.
- Vaginal fluids can neutralize acidity, helping sperm survive longer than expected.
- Pre-ejaculate (precum) can contain sperm, which can lead to pregnancy.
- While sperm typically live for 2–3 days, in some cases, they can survive up to a week.
- Even during menstruation, pregnancy is not impossible.
Thinking, “This day should be fine,” is risky. Instead, assume that every day carries a potential risk and use proper contraception.
Know Your Birth Control Options
Using condoms correctly is one of the most effective and accessible methods of contraception.
- While condoms are not 100% foolproof, correct usage makes them highly reliable.
- Birth control pills (oral contraceptives) can further increase effectiveness but require consistency and a doctor’s consultation.
- Other long-term options include IUDs and hormonal implants, which provide even stronger protection.
“I Don’t Want to Upset Him”—A Dangerous Mindset
“I was afraid my boyfriend would get mad if I insisted on using protection.”
But is that really a healthy relationship?
- A relationship should be built on mutual respect, not fear.
- If someone refuses to use protection, dismisses your concerns, or threatens to leave you over it—do they truly care about you?
“If I Get Pregnant, We Can Just Get Married”
Pregnancy and childbirth are life-altering experiences, especially for women.
- Giving birth is often described as “pushing a watermelon through your nose.”
- New mothers barely get time to rest, as caring for a newborn is a 24/7 responsibility.
- There are real risks, including complications like perineal tears, prolapse, or severe postpartum depression.
- A sudden pregnancy can impact education, career plans, and financial stability.
Before saying, “It’s fine, we’ll figure it out,” ask yourself if you’re truly ready for this responsibility.
Final Thoughts
Sex is not just a source of pleasure—it is an act with profound consequences.
True intimacy involves love, trust, and responsibility. Unprotected sex can change your life in ways you may not have considered. Take time to educate yourself, communicate with your partner, and make informed choices.
These sites may be helpful to you!
A U.S. nonprofit project that communicates sex education in an easy-to-understand manner.
📌 Recommended points✅ For teenagers and young adults.
An official information site provided by the UK public health service.
📌 Recommended points✅ It includes government-approved guidelines on contraception and STIs.
One of the world’s leading medical institutions that provides health information from specialists.
📌 Recommended Points✅ It explains difficult medical terminology in an easy-to-understand manner for the general public.
An official medical agency of the U.S. government that provides data on infectious diseases and public health.
📌 Recommended Points✅ Provides scientific data on contraceptive methods in the “Reproductive Health” section.
➡️https://www.plannedparenthood.org
The largest nonprofit organization in the U.S. providing family planning and sex education. Covers a wide range of information on contraception, STIs (sexually transmitted infections), pregnancy, sexual consent, and more.
📌 Recommendations
✅ The “Types and Effectiveness of Contraception” page provides detailed explanations of the success rates and usage of each contraceptive method.
✅ There is also a scientific explanation about “safe days (Fertility Awareness Method).”
✅ One of the sites that sets the standard for sex education in the English-speaking world.
Let’s make use of these sites as well!
Thank you for reading. Stay safe and take care. 💕
