Do You Like Fortune-Telling? — A Thoughtful Look at Personality Types
Today on we’re joined by our thoughtful guest, Sera, to explore how we might use fortune-telling—not to predict the future, but to better understand ourselves and each other.
Sera isn’t much of a talker in person, but on paper, her voice is clear and compelling. So let’s dive in.
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Sera writes: I’m not here to argue whether fortune-telling is “real” or “fake.” Instead, I’d like to invite you to think of it as a tool—something we can use to reflect on human personality and relationships.
The Value of Typing Systems
Horoscopes, zodiac signs, blood types—these types of personality typing are familiar to many. While they often get dismissed as fluff, I believe they offer a valuable perspective: the idea that people can be loosely grouped by certain behavioral tendencies.
Of course, blindly believing these categories or using them to judge others is harmful. But recognizing that some patterns exist can be helpful in understanding how people think, feel, and behave differently from us.
When we start noticing how others interpret the world in ways that differ from our own, it becomes easier to build healthy, respectful relationships.
Don’t Assume Everyone Thinks Like You
It’s easy to fall into the trap of assuming others see the world the way we do. After all, we feel a certain way—so why wouldn’t others feel the same?
But that’s just not the case.
Take this example: if someone trips over a rock, one person might blame the rock, while another blames their own carelessness. Or, as people age and find physical tasks more difficult, some may resolve to train harder, while others simply accept it as part of getting older.
These reactions come from deeply rooted personality traits and mental habits.
Why I Dislike Surprises
I once heard a man say, “Women love surprises, don’t they?” But honestly, I’m not a fan. I get uncomfortable giving surprises, and I don’t love receiving them either. I worry about timing, emotional readiness, and whether the other person is really okay with it.
Assumptions like “people like you must feel this way” can accidentally cross boundaries or cause misunderstanding.
Personality Differences in Love and Relationships
Even in romantic relationships, there are so many variations: some people are assertive, some reserved; some love physical affection, others find it overwhelming.
When we assume our partner feels the same way we do just because we love them, we risk disappointment. But when we start from the idea that “everyone has their own style,” it becomes much easier to approach relationships with empathy and openness.
Culture and Environment Shape Personality, Too
As global connection increases, understanding cultural differences becomes just as important.
Japan, for example, is an island nation with four distinct seasons and a long rainy season. Its customs and values evolved in response to these conditions. So it’s no surprise that someone from Japan might find it difficult to immediately adapt to life in Scandinavia or the Middle East—and vice versa.
Seen through the lens of evolutionary psychology, culture is simply the wisdom we inherit to survive in our environment. That’s why people from different climates or traditions may value completely different things.
When we meet someone with a different background, starting from the mindset of “of course they’re different” helps us avoid unnecessary conflict.
The Science Behind Typing
Interestingly, some aspects of personality typing do overlap with scientific fields like behavioral science and genetics.
Take blood types, for example. While widely criticized, there are theories linking them to ancient population patterns—agricultural societies (Type A), hunting tribes (Type O), nomadic groups (Type B), and cultural intersections (Type AB). Whether proven or not, these ideas add depth to our curiosity.
There are even studies suggesting seasonal birth might correlate with social tendencies—those born during longer daylight periods may lean more extroverted, possibly due to effects on brain chemistry.
So even when the science is still evolving, there’s room to explore these ideas thoughtfully.
From Assumptions to Understanding
Remembering that others may not share our values or thought patterns can help us navigate relationships with grace.
Even with close friends or partners, it’s better to assume “they might be different” than to expect sameness. And even if we never fully understand someone’s inner world, approaching them with respect can go a long way.
In Closing
Just as we say in Japanese, ware-nabe ni tsubo-buta—“every pot has its perfect lid.” Finding someone who complements your unique shape is a special kind of magic.
Fortune-telling and personality typing might not give us absolute truths, but they can offer valuable insights. They’re not about being “right”—they’re about noticing patterns, starting conversations, and developing a little more self-awareness.
Thank you for reading. At The Moon Garden, we focus on tarot and reflection—not predictions, but gentle, helpful advice.
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