Why We Use Love Toys – Better Than Luxury Skincare? The Secret to Radiance from Within
Busy lives, but never wanting to forget what it means to be truly ourselves.
In the whirlwind of everyday life, we work hard, chase deadlines, and play by society’s rules.
But somewhere along the way, do you ever feel like you’re losing touch with that part of yourself that longs to feel, to glow, to just be—as a woman?
This isn’t about romance.
This is about something quieter.
A secret kind of self-care that gently nudges the body’s natural “happiness switches”—like oxytocin and estrogen—back to life.
Yura:
This time, I had a deep and personal talk with my dear friend C.C. （Camellia） about something many people are still shy to discuss—why we use love toys.It turns out, everyone has their own reasons. Some of them go deep. Some are practical. But all of them made me realize: this isn’t a frivolous topic. It’s real. It matters. So, let’s begin.
“Why did you first start using love toys?”
Camellia:
Honestly? Because with my own hands, I was always in control. I could adjust the pressure, stop when I wanted, avoid going deeper. But that meant I wasn’t experiencing the feeling of surrender—of giving up control to something outside myself.Also, I was in a long-distance relationship for years. So part of me wanted to stay in touch with the sensations that came from another source, something unfamiliar, something that wasn’t me.
※This is an AI-generated image. After attending the online seminar, the teacher was an American. (The seminar included simultaneous interpretation.)
Yura:
Wow…so it was about cultivating sensitivity?
Camellia:
Well, yes…and also no. That’s the polished answer. (laughs)
The truth? My skin is a little sensitive, and using my hands just didn’t feel good. It made me uncomfortable.
Yura:
Ahh, a very real reason.
Camellia:
Right. And I also wanted to support my hormone balance. I naturally lean into my masculine side—I tend to push through things, ignore feelings, focus on getting things done. That attitude took a toll on my health, and it finally hit me: I need to cherish the part of me that’s feminine.
Yura:
How was your first experience?
Camellia:
To be honest, disappointing. The first toy I bought felt…off. It even hurt. I remember thinking, “Wait, this is what everyone’s talking about?” The website I ordered from was clearly made for men. It didn’t reflect what women really want or feel.
Yura:
But you didn’t give up?
Camellia:
Not at all. Because I wanted to feel connected to my femininity. Masturbating manually was exhausting. I wanted support.
When you’re constantly operating in “survival mode”—being strong, sharp, and never showing weakness—you start to lose the ability to just be soft. To be held, even by yourself.
Yura:
Yes! I feel that too. If we’re not intentional, there’s no space for that soft, sacred “woman time.”
Camellia:
Exactly. That’s why creating a moment just for yourself—to feel good, to connect to your body—matters. It helps with hormone regulation, yes, but also with confidence and inner peace.
I’ve always had low estrogen, small breasts, and I’m prone to getting sick. I tried supplements like soy isoflavones and drank soy milk, but that wasn’t honoring my femininity—it was just a biochemical patch.
But when I started self-pleasuring, listening to audio erotica, and embracing my identity as a woman, things started to shift. My mindset softened, my mood stabilized, my body stopped fighting me.
Hormones are mysterious, but when you work with them instead of against them, they become your greatest allies.
Yura:
When you say hormones, you mean things like estrogen?
Camellia:
Yes—estrogen and oxytocin. They give you that radiant glow, emotional stability, better sleep.
I used to have terrible insomnia, but after I started self-pleasure regularly, I began sleeping like a baby.
Yura:
That’s incredible. I wouldn’t have guessed that.
Camellia:
I know, right? It sounds so simple, but it works. These hormones are like natural supplements—ones your body produces when you care for it in the right way.
Yura:
Makes more sense than dropping hundreds on skincare, honestly. Internal care probably gives you better results, too. So for you, love toys were a tool for inner healing?
Camellia:
Absolutely. Some great toys cost around $50 and last for years—way better ROI than expensive serums. And it’s not just about pleasure—it’s about self-awareness.
Yura:
What do you mean by self-awareness?
Camellia:
Like knowing what you enjoy. What rhythm, what pressure, what areas are sensitive—or aren’t. That knowledge makes real intimacy better too.
For women who are nervous about sex or have past trauma, toys can be a gentle way to reintroduce touch. You don’t have to push past your limits just to please someone else. If you’re uncomfortable with oral, for instance—there are alternatives. No shame in that.
Yura:
It’s a little shy-making to talk about, but I can see how learning your own sexuality is incredibly important.
Camellia:
I think so. Even without a partner, just having time to reconnect with your femininity nourishes your soul. That kind of “returning to yourself” is like emotional nutrition.
Yura:
That feels so real to me. Personally, my reason’s a bit more straightforward though…
Camellia:
Oh?
Yura:
I just want to feel good! (laughs) And I’m not really looking for a boyfriend right now.
Camellia:
So even without a partner, you want to feel pleasure?
Yura:
Exactly! I feel like the time we get to be “in our feminine” is limited.
Camellia:
Actually, it’s not. If you support your hormones and take care of your body, you can be radiant and sensual well into your 50s, 60s, and beyond. I’ve seen it—glowing skin, gorgeous hair, women who carry a quiet confidence that’s so magnetic.
Your erogenous zones can be trained too—sensitivity can grow with time. For some women, their 30s and 40s are better than their 20s.
Yura:
That’s a relief. But… I still think nothing beats real sex. Isn’t there a risk of becoming desensitized if you rely on toys too much?
Camellia:
It depends on how you use them. Some people say sensitivity decreases, others say it increases. I believe your body reflects your heart. The deeper your emotional connection with your partner, the more sensitive you become. Toys don’t dull your senses—disconnection does.
Yura:
Ah…so it’s really about emotional openness.
Camellia:
Exactly.
And as for the turning point? It came when I discovered toys made for women. I found this one from SVAKOM called “CICI”—and it was amazing. That experience changed everything.
After that, I only shopped from brands designed with women in mind. No more wasted money, no more disappointment.
Yura:
So female-focused brands really make a difference?
Camellia:
Absolutely. Male-oriented sites often have reviews based on performance—on how a woman should react. You can’t trust those.
Like, how many times have you seen a woman say, “Well, he bought it for me, so I can’t complain…”? That pressure is real.
Yura:
Oh god, so real.
Camellia:
It comes from a place of kindness, sure—but hiding your real feelings in a relationship isn’t healthy. That’s why, if couples are going to use toys, they should do it together, openly. It’s not about pretending to like something—it’s about exploring, sharing, and being honest. That’s where the magic is.
Yura:
I see. Sharing how you feel really matters. Not as criticism, but as a way to talk about how things could get even better—staying positive, you know?
Camellia:
Exactly. And when you’re with someone you can talk to like that naturally, love toys can become such a beautiful tool.
Yura:
But… how do you even bring it up with a guy? Like, saying you want to use toys, or that you already do… Won’t he think it’s kind of dirty? Or worse—‘Am I not satisfying you?’
Camellia:
I think it’s okay to just be honest… but yeah, if you start the conversation from a negative angle, it could definitely make things awkward. So why not frame it as something like, ‘I’m doing it as part of taking care of myself or becoming more confident as a woman’?
Yura:
True! That’s totally valid. It is part of taking care of your body and mind.
Camellia:
And then maybe whisper something like, ‘Let’s find ways to feel even better together than with toys’…
Yura:
W-whoa 😳 Okay! So today, we talked about why someone might use love toys. Like everything else, there are pros and cons. Not using them is totally fine—but if you do, it’s worth finding the right ones for you!
We hope you found this helpful. See you next time! ❤️
Bonus Chat…
Yura:
By the way, where did the nickname C.C. come from?
Camellia:
At workshops and on surveys, it’s often okay to join under a nickname or pen name, right? I didn’t have one ready, so I just took the initials from Camellia—C.C.—on the spot.
Yura:
Ohh, that makes sense!
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