The important thing is to fill your vessel with self-love.
Imagine this glass is you. Because it's empty, you feel the need to fill it.
Sometimes we strongly seek love from others.
This might be because there is an emptiness in our hearts. If you love yourself and fill your vessel, your heart, with self-love, that emptiness won’t occur. However, if you lack self-love, your vessel becomes empty. As a result, you desperately seek others to pour love into you.
When your vessel is empty, you might try to fill the void with food, material desires, or excessive shopping. You may also seek love from others, but this is only a temporary solution and cannot bring true satisfaction.
When your vessel is full, love for others naturally overflows.
When your own vessel is filled, you can genuinely receive love from others. This is because you have sufficient self-love in your heart. With self-love, you don't reject or doubt the love you receive from others.
On the other hand, if you don't love yourself, you may not feel the love from others and might find yourself asking, 'Why don't you love me?' This can cause pain to the other person.
However, when you fill your own vessel with love, love for others naturally overflows. As a result, you can treat others warmly and kindly. This can be seen as a fountain-like cycle, where the exchange of love spreads to those around you and eventually returns to you.
Contribution and dependence on others.
Contributing to others is an important element in society. However, if you give too much to others while neglecting your own vessel and leaving it empty, your self-love will be damaged. Excessive contributions to others may actually be a sign of dependency. Rather than finding your sense of worth in others, it is important to first fill your own vessel with love.
If you help others, it is ideal to support them in becoming self-reliant. Like the saying, 'If you see someone hungry, teach them how to fish rather than giving them a fish,' true contribution is encouraging independence without fostering dependence. The yin-yang symbol is a perfect circle because both sides are the same size.
Accepting your imperfect self.
To nurture self-love, it is essential to accept yourself. By acknowledging and forgiving your imperfections, your vessel becomes more beautiful and stronger.
Life is filled with failures and difficulties, but these are what give it depth and make it worth living. Instead of blaming yourself, it is important to have a sense of gratitude.
As your self-love grows, your heart’s vessel becomes larger, allowing you to genuinely receive love from others. When your heart is full, you can treat others with more kindness. Haven't you ever found yourself naturally being kind to someone when something good happens? That's what it means. And you'll understand that kindness and sweetness are different things.
Thank you very much.
