The Dynamics of Masculine and Feminine Love: Giving and acceptance
Masculine love is characterized by giving, while feminine love is characterized by acceptance
Feminine energy is associated with Yin, and masculine energy is associated with Yang.
What is Yin（陰）?
A prime example of Yin is the "Moon." The Moon shines by reflecting the light of the Sun, rather than producing light on its own. Thus, it needs to be illuminated by the Sun in order to shine. The Moon, like women during their menstrual cycles, waxes and wanes. On full moon days, the sea can become more turbulent, and humans may experience increased bleeding or higher birth rates, indicating the Moon's influence on "water" in various ways. Despite being a distant satellite, the Moon exerts a subtle but significant influence in many aspects.
What is Yang（陽）?
Yang is exemplified by the "Sun." The Sun is visibly energetic, nurturing plant growth and providing essential UV rays that contribute to the synthesis of vitamins and serotonin, thus greatly benefiting physical and mental health. However, if the Sun's intensity becomes too great, it can cause the ground to dry out, making it difficult for life to survive.
This distinction is crucial. It is not about physical gender but about the "nature of psychological gender.
Let’s briefly explain the yin-yang symbol.
The shape of the yin-yang symbol resembles two shapes like a comma, tadpole, or paisley, which are connected and chase each other’s tails. The white side represents yang, while the black side represents yin. However, you’ll notice that the larger, bulging part contains the color of the opposite side. This signifies that yin contains and nurtures yang, and yang contains and nurtures yin. When they are at their fullest, the opposite part is present.
On their own, each shape is pointed, but when they combine, they form a harmonious circle.
In other words, it signifies that:
"Women have a core of yang, and men have a core of yin."
For example, in terms of preferences for colors in the home or personal tastes, women often prefer brighter colors, while men tend to prefer darker, more substantial colors. This is one such example.
In other words, "Women inherently possess masculine traits, and men inherently possess feminine traits.
What happens when yin and yang interact?
When "boyish" girls meet men, they may develop feminine softness and empathy. Conversely, when a man meets a woman, he may gain brightness and energy. Thus, when the yin-yang exchange takes place, both men and women can strengthen their inherent characteristics.
So the girl gets the "Yin nucleus" inside the man.
Conversely, the boys receive a "yang nucleus" from the girls.
When yin and yang are combined in a compatible manner, women become more feminine and men become more masculine.
In other words, it is like "women are raised by men and men are raised by women.
(I'm not talking about a father-consumption or mother-consumption)
Compared to men, women are said to be more mature on their own, but not so.
It's a mutual concern. Since feminine energy is essentially passive, being involved with a good man (not just in romance but in general) can create a positive cycle. However, if involved with a bad man, it can lead to emotional and physical deterioration. If you experience domestic violence or any similar situation, having the courage to escape is crucial.
This is not about a problem of mutual independence but rather because women are inherently more receptive and prone to being influenced. Women are also more susceptible to brainwashing. It is more common for women to get involved in strange religions (cults?) and find it difficult to leave. Please be cautious about this site as well.
If you feel you might have been negatively influenced, it's best to refresh yourself quickly. Engaging in exercise or taking a bath to wash away sweat can help reset your mood, so consider doing these activities.
After marriage, a woman who appears to be a good match for her husband and wife may ......
Their style is more feminine than before marriage, and their mannerisms, mood, and speech are softer and calmer.
This is because they have received love, the core of yin, from the man, and because they have received love, the core of yang, from the woman, the man is more positive toward his work and is able to produce results.
Since the feminine is yin, it is preferable to receive yang affection first.
And "giving" without asking for anything in return is essentially masculine love.
And the sun is never absent all year round.
It is like a man can have a thousand children, but a woman cannot.
Therefore, it is the masculine nature that is naturally suited for giving and receiving affection.
But as mentioned above, too much cheerfulness does not make the best use of the creature.
And for him, not being able to rest is a burden.
That is why a woman who has received affection and has finished converting that affection into something soft and of good quality heals a man who is worn out.
You can't look at the sun all the time, it burns your eyes and in fact damages your brain.
But the moon, you can look at it for quite a long time.
And I could understand the date.
It is also related to "body fluids and water".
It has the power to quench the land thirsted by the sun.
Masculine men even say, "When my mind is tired from work, it is enough if I have a woman to lean on," so the feminine ...... yin power has that kind of power.
When such a "cycle of affection" is done well, it means that all will go well for both men and women.
Therefore, ideally, the feminine aspect should be the first to be loved.
It is important to receive that love properly, as it is beneficial. And then, it is good to transform that love into high-quality affection within yourself and return it. Of course, adopting an attitude of 'I deserve this' can prevent positive things from coming to you, so having a sense of gratitude is essential. When you have this attitude, good things will flow to you more and more, and you will be able to give back good things as well.
If the feminine aspect is first, how can one be loved?
A clear example is the story of the monkey and the flower. When the female monkey’s bottom turns red, it’s a sign that she is ready for mating. The male monkey starts to invite the female monkey for mating.
Similarly, when a flower is still in bud, insects do not come, but when it blooms, insects come to help with pollination and receive nectar in return.
Setting aside whether the insects are male or female.
It means that men are attracted to women who are prepared to be women.
Many girls realize they are women when menstruation begins, usually around age ten. Although there is a theory that the onset of menstruation has been getting earlier, it seems too early for girls to become aware of their allure at such a young age. While early romantic interest is fine, it is important to adhere to the R-18 age limit for physical relations.
In other words, having a sense of 'I am a woman' and 'I am a beautiful woman' is crucial.
When in love, women often feel the urge to dress up, try cute makeup, and experience changes in their body shape. This is because female hormones become more active, leading to higher-pitched voices and shinier hair and skin.
While it’s debatable if men notice these subtle changes, men are still pleased when their partner looks beautiful and cute. Many men adhere to the 'don’t feed the fish you’ve caught' mindset, but surprisingly, many are also happy when a woman shows affection and dependence.
Many men have a hero complex and desire to be relied upon.
Therefore, 'receiving love' is also a form of expressing affection for women. It’s important to convey love in this way as well
To receive love effectively, try enhancing your sense of beauty not just for yourself but also for others.
After all, when a woman is beautiful, it makes men happy and motivates them.
Transform the love you receive into something beautiful and reciprocate it. When the yin-yang cycle is harmonious, men can thrive as men and maintain good health. Women, too, will find it easier to excel as women and become healthier and more beautiful.
On the other hand, a woman who wants to give may be a bit dangerous.
I feel it leads to codependence.
I asked this to a senior female colleague and she nodded her head and said, "I know what you mean.
Women can remain women because men are men, and men can remain men because women are women. Why are women in Hakata so cute? It's because the men are very much men. Why are the men in Hakata so masculine? It's because the women are very much women. That's how I see it.
Unpaid love is a love that everyone can cultivate. But the quality is different.
It can be simply said that having a love that is 'constantly giving' is a challenge of masculinity, while the challenge of femininity is 'having the capacity to acceptance love.
Is receptive love of lesser quality than giving love? Not at all. Receptive love means fully accepting and embracing the other person's existence. It's a love that is committed and wholehearted.
Just like a sword and its scabbard, when a sword is left unsheathed, it can become damaged by various things, including rust. The scabbard protects both the sword and itself from such harm.
Even if one is not in a romantic relationship, being around successful or top-tier masculine figures and increasing points of contact can significantly help in developing feminine qualities. For example, I personally admire a certain male author, and reading his books and reflecting on his ideas made me feel, "Ah, I want to return to being more feminine." Even indirect contact can be effective.
Of course, it is not the case that one cannot cultivate these Yin-Yang, feminine, and masculine aspects alone. The Yin-Yang symbol also represents a single entity. Women naturally have and can develop masculine and Yang qualities as well.
If managed well, this can lead to becoming a woman who can assertively say "NO." This means breaking free from the aspect of being passive and easily influenced. It can also make it easier to escape from domestic violence or avoid getting entangled in such situations.
Romance and sex are not absolutely necessary. What is important is being aware of the feminine and masculine aspects within oneself. If dividing by gender is too complex, consider using concepts like Yin-Yang, light and dark, or forward and backward. Sometimes, being backward-looking is necessary.
This connects to developing human strength, so if you cultivate respect for others and yourself, many aspects will grow.
My words may at times be inadequate to explain, so I will try to write again.
All people have both male and female natures. What I am describing here is not the physical sex, but the spiritual sex. Hence, I use the terms "masculinity" and "femininity". Even women can have "masculine" love, and men can have "feminine" love. This article is not biased toward physical sex, but focuses on the spiritual nature.
Yin and Yang.
It is quite profound and I plan to write about it again when I discover something new.
So, thank you very much.
